I wasn't sure how school was going to go after I had vowed that I was finished with him, but my plan was just to try and avoid him as much as possible....
First day back and he was already in my face as I tried to make my way to my first period class. He saw me walking down the hall and immediately caught up to me, telling me that he "Needed to talk to me." I told him that was great, but he lost his opportunity, and I had no desire to talk to him. He continued to get more and more frustrated dancing around in my face, repeating over and over again that he needed to talk to me. When he started to block me from going into my class, and trying to grab me, I decided I had enough and I attempted to walk off. I needed to get somewhere safer. I proceeded down a busier hallway, hoping to somewhat lose him in the crowd of students. As I was about to walk past the girls bathroom, someone had pushed me inside.
To my surprise it was one of the staff members (I'm not sure what her official title was, but basically she was the one that walked around the halls getting mad at students for sluffing and attendance, and would generally bring in the police when needed) I had never really talked to her, other than her getting mad at me a few times before when I was out in the halls instead of in class. Generally I had tried to avoid her because she always seemed so grumpy. When she shoved me into the girls bathroom I was confused about what she could possibly want from me now.
Apparently she had been watching the school's security cameras and noticed what Jared was doing to me out in the halls, so she was coming to the rescue. After almost a year and a half of dealing with this, and someone was finally noticing? Either way, I was grateful that someone finally cared enough to help. She called one of the cops at the school and told him to keep Jared away from the girls bathroom so that she could escort me out of there. They held him back (he was kicking and screaming to make quite the scene) while she took me straight down to her office where I was met by the on-duty school cop, and one other cop that got called in. I was super surprised that they were finally taking things seriously, it almost felt shocking, but it was finally happening.
They locked me in that office with them, while Jared paced back and forth outside the room screaming, banging on the door, cussing at the top of his lungs, etc. They told me that I was in lock-down inside that office until they were able to get things under control, so I could get away safe. I spoke with the police and told them the story of what was going on between us, and they agreed that they needed to keep him away from me. After being in lock-down for a couple of hours, they called my parent's to let them know what was going on, and told them that they would be sending me home from school early. They even told my mom that they should expect me home within a certain time frame, and if they didn't she should call the police. They weren't taking the situation lightly. They finally escorted me to my car, and made sure I was able to leave the school safely. They had told me that they would be sending a police officer out to my house in a couple hours to check on me and get an official statement.
The officer came to my house, and had me write a statement about everything that had happened (including the time that Jared tied me up and tried to make me watch him commit suicide, him wrecking his car in front of me, the abuse, etc.) They were going to use the statement to get a restraining order for me. I told them I was scared to press the charges, and to be honest it was hard for me to fully want to press charges because I still loved that guy. They came to an agreement that the school would be the ones to initiate the charges so that it didn't have to come directly from me; so I agreed. I'm pretty sure the charge which they ended up filing for was for a No-Contact order, so that Jared was not supposed to have any means of contact with me, or come near me. While I was speaking with the police office, he specifically said the following: "You need to make sure that you keep yourself safe, watch where you go, who you are with, and who is around you. I've been around people like Jared before, and he is completely unstable. To be honest with you, he has the personality of someone who would do something like try kidnapping you, or coming after your family to get back at you in revenge. We want to make sure that this does not escalate to something like a kidnapping or death."
....Well that was comforting...It was no longer just me freaking out in my own teenage mind anymore; a cop himself had just told me that my ex boyfriend was capable of coming after me or my family to either kidnap or kill. This was serious, and I was in the middle of it.
Jared ended up getting suspended from our high school for the rest of the school year. I was a senior at the time, and he was a Junior (he was a month younger than me, so he missed the deadline for my grade). They decided they would at least kick him out of the school long enough for me to be able to graduate in peace, then depending on how he acted he may be able to come back his senior year.
I was relieved and terrified all at the same time. People were finally trying to help me out, but now that the action had been taken, I was terrified for how Jared and his parents might react. To be honest, I was just waiting for his parent's to try and get back at me by trying to sue me or my family for something, by the amount of stuff that they were trying to pin as my fault and claim I was doing.
It took a little time for them to officially kick Jared out of school, so for the meantime I was escorted to and from my car and classes by an On-Duty cop. The reason it took them so long to get him kicked out of school, is because his parent's were fighting it to the T. Like I said, they were trying to pin everything on me, I was the crazy one that should be kicked out of school. So for the next week or two I had to work back and forth with the cops and faculty to provide proof of what was going on, and help answer questions until they finally got him removed from the school. I'm sure I've already mentioned this, but his parent's completely terrify me, maybe even more than Jared did. And I wasn't the only one that was terrified of them, the staff and police hated to have to work with his family too. In a lot of ways, they thought they were above the law, and the cops had already had a lot of other bad run-ins with his family (Still don't know the details on that, but basically the whole family seemed to be trouble).
For the next little while I didn't hear anything from Jared; but my parent's were very eager to make sure that they knew where I was going to be at all times, and they hated me going anywhere alone.
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